Human Interaction

Humans, by our very nature, are just fucking horrible at interacting with one another; unless we are properly taught how to decipher and interpret codes, vis-a-vis verbal and non-verbal, and respond based on our desired outcome of the situation. I've found that most people learn communication, language, and non-verbal skills all the wrong ways - they are taught by society and not by science. Hence, why so many men are AFCs and just plain terrible at dealing with women. Once we understand the structure in which we operate by, life becomes more like The Matrix and less confusing. Unlearn the wrong, then learn the right...this will give you a competitive advantage and differentiate yourself from the pack when desired. Things to think about: always be in control, be strategic (think like a chess match), don't be afraid to be bold, and if you are wrong, make a mistake, or look an idiot, use that your advantage...always think like a hedge fund manager and leverage both your assets and liabilities for success.

Philosophies of Life

Women appreciate deep thinkers, ergo, they like to see that a man takes a more holistic approach to life, one that takes the entire world into consideration and leads to a higher level of consciousness. Humans are not that dissimilar - we all have dreams, ambitions, and the desire to live a particular lifestyle. Be bold and chase your dreams with undying tenacity. Proving yourself doesn't always mean you will be successful [on] the first, second, or even third attempts (think like an entrepreneur even if you are a lifelong member of Big Brother's ranks), so don't focus on the failures...focus on why you didn't succeed, remove negative thoughts from your close thoughts, and develop a plan for success based on your lessons learned. This approach to life is very attractive to other humans and will help you restructure your thinking so failure is appreciated, [so that failure] helps you grow at unparalleled speeds in your personal life...and so that you exude a level of energy that attracts women like you were doused in a synthesized formula of pheromones that was specially engineered to get them naked and horny kinda like a willing form of hypnosis; a trance if you will. Once you free your mind, the secure mental state you exude will set you apart from EVERYONE else (GURU vs AFC type social dynamics)!

Make their life easier

Always strive to make the life of women easier. They are incredible creatures and should be cared for and treated with the utmost respect. Plus, it'll make your life easier, will help to decrease concern on their part, and increase your sexual satisfaction. A happy girl can spend more time thinking about how you make them feel vis-a-vis your actions and the impacting results. If she appreciates your efforts, she's a worthy pursuit and indicates qualification. If not, time to re-evaluate the situation.

New School Thinking, Old School Mentality

It's important to keep life in perspective, at all times.  NLP teaches us this and gives us the tools to do this, but that is a discussion for another thread.  The purpose of this thread is to focus on the thinking of women and the drastic (in the sense of the word drastic) changes that have occurred since the women's suffrage movement, feminism, and a fundamental transformation of the American economy from labor-based to service based.  Less than 100 years ago, women were raised with the intention of finding a "suitable" husband; thus, meeting societal expectations.  Now, in 2011, societal expectations are still more traditional (think 100 years ago) than the reality of the world maps to, causing a serious confusion among the majority of women.  Now, they work...now, they pay their own bills...now, they can vote, etc. etc. etc.

Nevertheless, women still strive to be that "classy girl," viewed favorably through the societal lens of others (especially the socialites); yet they now can and WANT to express their sexuality in a way never "allowed" before, although they are taught very little on the subject, as their education on sexuality is generally limited to Sex in the City.  It is your responsibility to guide the female down the path.  She must trust you and know that she is safe no matter where you take her.  You must completely differentiate yourself (demonstrate value) from the other men that have shaped her thinking.  Most importantly, she must completely believe the "slutty, freaky, kinky, etc." acts she performs with you will never be disclosed to the public.  Once you reach that point with your woman/women, you will reach a level of sexual energy rarely explored.

Don't get too caught-up in PUA lingo and bullshit

Know the PUA community, understand the logic, memorize the terminology, internalize the concepts, and implement your education BUT don't let yourself become a PUA (I only refer to myself as a PUA for qualification purposes and for searching engine optimization reasons...I've found "real" PUAs to be shallow and manipulative, ergo fake, untrustworthy, and, therefore, unworthy).  Use the skills taught, the perspectives given, and the resources provided to augment your life; don't try and become a PUA, just allow yourself to further your personal development and, very important, be NATURAL.  Women are the quickest to notice when a man isn't acting natural.  Don't act like the material or the books, be yourself and use the structure to your advantage. Use NLP, seduction, social dynamics, PUA, etc. to your advantage to better yourself, your conversations, relationships, and opportunities with not just women, but also in business and throughout your life.  This may sound like self-help because it is...you need it.  Otherwise, you wouldn't keep reading my posts dreaming about threesomes with tens you've yet to have, respecting my lifestyle :)

Be Interesting, Not Weird

It is all too often that MEN make the opener, one or multiple threads, or the general experience WEIRD for the target, group, and/or social make-up of the scene.  The power lies with the MAN and it is HIS responsibility to differentiate himself from the pack vis-a-vis demonstrating value.  This is done by being different, not strange; and most importantly, there is a very fine line.  The first problem most men have is they don't KNOW they are being weird because they have not been taught how to think.  Society teaches men and women how it is "supposed" to work and how best to deal with the sexes...and they FAIL in almost every imaginable way.  The quicker you are able to unlearn EVERYTHING you've been taught about sex, relationships, women, pick-up by society, the easier it will be to avoid being weird with women in the future.  This is one of many steps to building comfort with the opposite sex and finding what you want in life.

Experience Proximity and Relativity

Humans, by our very nature, are creatures based on experience and base our feelings on our understanding of a particular experience or set of experiences.  For example, if you open a three-set of tens and are able to identify that your primary target has had very positive experiences with people whose names begin with the letter "J," this can be used to your advantage regardless of your name spelling.  If your name happens to be Jason, then bring the comforting, safe thoughts your target disclosed to the forefront of her thinking.  This is what seduction is all about - bringing these thoughts to the forefront of your target(s) thinking, invoking positive feelings, and having your target(s) act on said feelings.  On the other hand, if your name is Mohammad, then chances are you have a much more difficult set to pursue than Jason.  Nevertheless, Mohammad would want to introduce the idea that venturing into territory unknown is the best course of action for his target.  He would then actively move the concept of "J" further away from his target, while simultaneously developing threads around the intriguing nature of something different than the safe "J."  In closing, this is where the students are separated from the masters...

Patience is Essential

Patience is essential and elemental to everything in life, especially women. Learn to exercise patience in the most difficult and frustrating of times will help yield favorable results. With women, patience can be the deciding factor in many situations involving sex. A bit of extra patience exercised at the right times can ensure a night of long wonderful sex. Women look for men to exhibit patience. They are naturally prone to a man that is willing to be patient to give them what they want. Without patience, you will be headed down a difficult path.

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Don't be a pussy & don't be awkward

The two things I see most with AFCs is that they are pussies and have a tendency to be awkward in interpersonal communication, both verbal and non-verbal. Let us address each issue individually and then tie them together as we come to consummation.

First, most AFCs do one of two things with regards to being a pussy. They either are shy and not very aggressive, thus not building comfort; or they are overly aggressive and pushy, thus overshadowing any comfort that may be building. As in everything in life, you must carefully balance the cocky-funny attitude that women so adore to avoid extremes in either direction. It is essential to be bold, demonstrate value, and make yourself stand out, but be aware of your actions and how you are being perceived by/in a group. Make objective assessments periodically and check to ensure that you are following the structured path you have carefully laid out in a given scenario. Every women is similar, but, at the same time, every women is very different. Possess the audacious attitude necessary to unlock their unique pattern and you can grow with them to unprecedented levels in your relationship(s).

Second, don't be that strange dude that makes people feel like you watch too much Dexter. Be aware of your actions but don't be awkward dude. No one wants to be around awkward dude, they want to quickly be rid of him and move on to someone more interesting, entertaining, FUN! The idea is to make women want to be with you because you possess certain traits and qualities they value the most, which you demonstrate upon meeting them and administer using PUA tradecraft. Don't let a pickup or any other conversation become strange. Be watched because you are different. Highlight what makes you different, whether it be intelligence, humor, magic, or anything else that has considerable substance, and demonstrates why a female should sleep with you versus other suitable candidates. Do this all the time, not just in the beginning. Get comfortable and you will fall inline with the rest of the crowd. Be in the starting line-up, don't ride the bench.

Conversation Dynamics – Stupid Thinking

There comes a point in a stupid conversation with a woman, where her emotions are on hyper-drive, that even she realizes she's being completely ridiculous. It is at this time, that the male needs to penetrate the B-shield and take down the female in a cocky-funny, humorous way, so that she laughs at her own stupidity. You must be tasteful in your tactics and delivery. It's a switch. Learn how to flip it. The same can be applied when the male is "acting a fool" females. Be audacious in your moves against the opposite sex, but make sure to time your moves properly. There are many wrong times, and very few right times. A masterful foundation can only be built with enormous patience. Keep the conversation simple and don't let the female navigate the conversation so that she takes focus away from details that are important and relative to your perspective. They can do that without you realizing it to you AFCs; and only if they're really good for experienced PUAs.

Stupid conversations are unavoidable and should be dealt with accordingly. Don't let things get out of control, whether it's within the first two minutes of meeting her or whether she's a 17 month MLTR. Emotions, regardless of sex, should be maintained at logical levels and doses so that conversation can be analyzed by both parties and feelings can be attributed and discussed, as necessary and/or desired. The sooner that two people acknowledge they are fallible human creatures, conforming to societal standards and expectations [to some degree], the more likely their relationship will be built on trust and, at the very least, have some degree of respect for the sophistication and nonconformity of their words. This is not to say that you should have strange conversations with women, but, at the same time, try not to conform to be easily associated with the behaviors and actions of others. If done successfully, you will successfully endure many future stupid conversations followed by great fucking sex.

Truth

People are driven to the truth. Women and men both equally seek the truth, but there is a difference in thought between the sexes. Whatever the nuances, no solid relationship or pickup can begin with lies. There must be a solid foundation to build anything on, whether it theoretical or physical. Thus, it is essential to begin with the most solid of foundations based on strong sexual and/or emotional connections.

Truth builds comfort and trust. Without true honesty, there is nothing other than the facade of a relationship. Just thinking about the number of marriages that end each year as people learn the true nature of their relationship and the person they married. This sad decline is completely avoidable granted both parties are truthful in their affairs, thoughts, desires, and limitations. Of course, this is never as easy as it should be and such conversation needs to be prefaced with the proper theme. Develop a well structured path and the truth will set you free!

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Women - Men Leaving Them

All women think that every man is going to leave them at some point in the relationship and if no one has “the” conversation, that is to define and structure the relationship, then shit will hit the fan at some point (in most cases). Men, AFCs, have this same fear, but I digress. Thought easily becomes reality and, thus, reality is borne thru the notion of past experiences, both good and bad, and unstructured thinking. Women dwell on shit all the time and if they aren't aware of it, then it's terribly influential on their thinking and can have drastic affects on their behavior towards others. Regardless of the misguided stances taken by organizations such as the National Organization of Women and those still practicing tradecraft from the era when the 19^thAmendment was passed to the US Constitution, women still look for men to lead the relationship. If you disagree with the aforementioned, then stop reading now. We have nothing more in common...

Let me make highlight an important detail at this point – Men, if you don't take felicitous control of the relationship from the start, then you are at the will and mercy of the female psyche. This takes careful consideration of the type of woman you are dealing with, the wants, needs, and desires of the woman and yourself, and intimate understand of different relationship structures. If you truly and wholeheartedly respect and care for the female, this will become apparent through your actions, word choice, and non-verbal interpersonal communication. In some cases, this may mean having a conversation that results in a friendship, at best, because the parties lack cohesion in certain critical areas, such as lifestyle choices, drug use, sexual preference, marriage expectations, etc. Thus, I advocate for a full and open relationship if that suites your needs or whatever structure works best for you. The point is, you won't know exactly what the other person wants until you speak with them about specifics.

Most women 25 years of age and older, who are sexually active, have had a significant other cheat on them or defy their trust. This unfortunate set of experiences can be used to your advantage if you genuinely want to care and be with the woman. Be warned, women can sense bullshit a mile away so if you intend to apply subterfuge, do so at your own risk and against my own warnings. Women are to be cherished, appreciated, and treated with respect and dignity. Time and time again, I've heard so many women tell me they are scared that I or their significant other is going to leave them. This is why I advocate for building a relationship quickly based on deep seeded trust, but only with the right women. It will take enlightenment and many lessons learned but, over time, the PUA will become the MPUA and, through a keen sense of awareness and meticulous attention to detail, associations can be identified and applied to specific women that present value you want to pursue. Through my theory on associations, you will find the correct women faster and have better relationships, but only if you are open, honest, and structured. Both parties will benefit and the relationship will prosper, until it dies, as most all do.